I am going to just cut to the chase because you do not need a long introduction… If you’re reading this its because you want to have more self-care but deep down you feel guilty for thinking of yourself. STOP IT RIGHT NOW! Which one of these resonate with you the most? If you get to the bottom… there’s some strategies on how to fix it!
1. "I DON'T HAVE TIME".
This was so NOT true! I mismanaged my time so much.
I spent a lot of time scrolling instead of sleeping *cue in Postpartum Anxiety*.
I spent a lot of time scrolling instead of watching a show I enjoyed.
I spent a lot of time scrolling instead of working out.
I had time. I did not use it the right way. I started to find little pockets of time and being more productive. I put my babies on a morning schedule which was pretty easy. I made time for me. Without one ounce of guilt.
STOP PSYCHING YOURSELF OUT. NOT HAVING TIME IS ONLY TRUE IF YOU WANT IT TO BE.
2. "I DON'T DESERVE ME TIME".
Well why the hell not?!
I am a working mom. I take care of my babies in the morning and at night when I am not at work.
I change majority of the diapers and I take care of washing their hair (which can be a task for kids with thick curly hair).
I do majority of the daily dishes. I take care of Jason's appointments in and out of the home.
I do a good bit of the learning and productive play.
I KNOW you do too mama!
...SO TELL ME AGAIN WHY YOU DON'T DESERVE TIME? I AM ONE PERSON YOU CANNOT CONVINCE WHEN IT COMES TO YOU NOT DESERVING TIME.
3. "I DON'T HAVE MONEY".
Okay, but all self-care does not cost money.
I love a good five minutes in the bathroom while they are watching tv. Because the minute I sit back on the couch, they are climbing all over me. That cost no money.
I journal or read before bed... or when I have spare time throughout the day and that costs me $0.
I have charged my card for self-care because it was THAT important to me. I have invested in myself using a credit cared via therapy and coaching to get the self-care I needed.
It was all well worth it.
IF THERE IS A WILL... THERE IS A WAY. MAKE A WAY TO MAKE IT HAPPEN.
THINGS TO START THINKING ABOUT...
Leverage the time you have and use it to your advantage.
Tell yourself all the reasons you deserve to relax.
Decide on free activities that will make you feel good and make a plan to do them!